Thursday, February 24, 2011


So I'm a stay at home Mom. I clean (ok stop laughing...) I cook, I do laundry, drive around to school drop offs pick ups and activities, Food shop, wipe noses, feed faces, wipe butts, do homework, projects, pay bills, garden, and get to watch pretty much every moment of my precious babies grow up. And this is why I feel guilty when I leave them to do anything for myself. They are only babies and need me for so long. I'm getting better at leaving them to go to the gym. Mostly cause I go at 9pm at night and they're sleeping. I guess I should feel bad my hubby is home--but oddly that doesn't make me feel guilty! lol
So this post is brought on by my joining a new gym. We were memebers...the whole the local YMCA. It wasn't cheap but it was pretty packed with things; Daycare-pool-classes-gym-fitness. The problem was that I was the only one that would go. At night. So needless to say the classes were ususally done, I'm not into swimming, and the kids were home asleep so no point in daycare. For the kids to do anything there--besides be members--it was extra $.
I didn't go during the day cause I didn't want to put them in the daycare. THATS MY JOB. Maybe once in a while, but really. So needless to say we cancelled. I'm looking for a new gym. I've got a trial membership to one that is gym equipt. and that's it. No daycare, no classes. Which is basically what I've been doing all along. THEN theres another one that has classes, fitness and daycare. But I wont use it. I know I won't. So I shouldn't bother right?
Well regardless my post may have been prompted by joining a new gym but my thoughts still go on thinking about working moms, and I don't know how you do it honestly. You always hear the "I feel so much mommy guilt" from the WMs but then they have no problem going on vacation without their kids, or going to the gym to train for a marathon for hours.
Maybe when the kids are older---besides my husband forcing me out the door into the work force--I won't feel so bad about taking some Me time. Till then I'll have to take my hour when I can get it and maybe my MNO escapes every once and a while. Hmmmm speaking of....


beach mama said...

i know exactly how you feel!

There is NO way I could do what I have been doing this past year if I was actually working outside the house. But, I'd be fat and unhappy. No way I could have trained for a tri last year or my half and now *gasp* a marathon this fall. You have to take the time for yourself too!
Hubby and I wrestled with the fact we will be training at the same time, but we are lucky my kids are surrounded by lots of grandma love and thats good for them too.
And having a healthy (physically and mentally) mommy is MOST important. Last weekend when I went away for the first time in over 6 years, I felt such guilt, at first, but I let it go because I know they were well taken care of.
As for the new gym, if there isn't much of a price difference I would go for the one with the childcare so you have the option to go during the day. My Baby LOVES playing with someone elses toys for an hour, and don't feel guilty b/c you are with them the other 23 hours of the day. Even 2 hours is ok, there is still 22 other hours. When you think of it that way it feels like no time at all. IT'S OK FOR YOU TO DROP THEM OFF AT THE CHILDCARE!! ((hugs)) love you. :)

Kellie said...

I get happy mamma happy kids. It's not that I can't get away an hour. I do. But I'm sick of seeing the people who say whoa is me I have to work (when i know they WANT to work) and that they get bitch when their kids don't take their 2, 2hr naps (mines still awake at 11:30pm) and that they need to relax (when they've gotten time away w/o kids and alone). I wanna hand out slaps. Maybe I'll just unfriend them all!